Best online MARRIAGE COUNSELING

Best online marriage counseling

Best online marriage counseling? You feel that things are not right in your marriage and that “something” needs to change. Perhaps something has happened or your marriage has fallen into a rut over time, love seem distant.

Clarity through marriage counseling

Your Love’s online marriage counseling is supervised by a regular marriage counselor and is available immediately. In 13 steps, the marriage counseling will make it clear to you IF and HOW a ‘SAME’ is still possible.
Attachment, emotion regulation, communication, dealing with criticism, conflict, fears, jealousy, infidelity, connection, loyalty, intimacy, sexuality, marriage needs, and separation are topics that will be addressed.

How does online marriage counseling work?

After checkout, you will receive two emails. The first email contains the access code to the online marriage counseling.
The second mail contains a link to the personal page of your regular marriage counselor. On this page you will find information about who and how you can communicate with if you have questions about the marriage counseling.

What does online marriage counseling cost?

For 197 CAD, you and your partner have one year of unlimited access to Your Love’s online marriage counseling and the guidance of your regular marriage counselor.

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Results of online marriage counseling

There are three possible outcomes of marriage counseling. You believe in each other and want to address the pain points to be able to build a lasting, loving, intimate marriage from a healthy grounding. A marriage where the balance between trust, attention and tension allows intimacy to grow.
When no more together is possible, you know you have done everything possible. In the end, you are left with two options, a respectful “marriage of convenience” or divorce.
Whatever the outcome, you have learned a lot about yourself. The insights are ‘building blocks’ for a happy life, because you too are entitled to happiness!
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Loving intimate marriage

Traditional versus online marriage counseling

The goal of traditional and online marriage counseling at Your Love is to allow partners within the marriage to get closer to each other step by step. The path towards it is different.
Traditional marriage counseling starts from an intake followed by joint and individual sessions with the marriage counselor. Exercises for at home are part of traditional marriage counseling.
In the online marriage counseling of Your Love you first go through 10 individual steps where you learn to recognize and acknowledge positive and negative interaction patterns. This way you are prepared for the 3 joint steps which consist of constructive partner talks.
In the partner conversations, the behavior patterns are discussed and you are given tools to break the negative behavior patterns. This can lead to a lasting loving intimate marriage.

Online marriage counseling content

In the individual part you actively search for answers to questions such as: ‘Who am I in the marriage, what do I feel, what do I want, what do I expect from my partner and our marriage?’ This part can be confronting, but for that very reason it is also enlightening and instructive.
After completing the individual part, you can articulate what your wishes are within a loving intimate marriage. From step 11 you start the partner conversations to be able to decide in step 13 how and if you want to continue together.
If you continue together, then in step 13 you will get tools on how you can work on the points for improvement. If you decide that it is better to separate, then you will also be given tools for this.
The total turnaround time for online marriage counseling is about 3 months.

Origin of methodology

Marriage counseling is based on EFT, CBCT and IBCT supplemented with consciousness insights. EFT focuses on emotions and feelings to explore and resolve marriage issues. EFT is less appropriate for marriages where communication or psychological problems are at the root. For this purpose, elements from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBCT and IBCT) and conscious thinking have been added to Your Love’s online marriage counseling.
  • EFT = Emotionally Focused Therapy
  • CBCT = Cognitive Behavioral Couple Therapy
  • IBCT = Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy

Affordable marriage counseling

Since 2004, the methodology of Your Love has been continually developed and, over time, transformed into online marriage counseling.
The reason was that marriage problems were, after depression and anxiety disorders, one of the most common reasons for treatment within mental health care. By health insurance companies, marriage problems as a primary complaint are no longer reimbursed.
Thus was born the need for affordable marriage counseling that is accessible to all.

Online marriage counseling is always useful

Online marrige counseling is in 80% of the couples the solution to continue with each other. Even in couples where one of the partners was skeptical or negative at first. If the stubborn partner does ‘click’, then these are often the go-getters.
If the marriage problems have not been addressed for years, chances are that the love has died out. Due to detachment, it is almost impossible to rekindle it. Feeling is not manufacturable and cannot be rekindled by marriage counseling.

After time-out

Did you break up and after some time there is a desire from both partners to continue together? Then it is highly recommended to first follow the online marriage counseling.
The marriage counseling helps prevent you from falling back into old negative interaction patterns, which can once again lead to a breakup.

Marriage needs

When we talk about a good marriage, we are talking about a lasting loving intimate marriage. A marriage within which you feel loved, valued and respected. That is what we strive for in the online marriage counseling of Your Love.
The enduring loving intimate marriage fulfills three important marriage needs:
  • Need for bonding
  • Need for togetherness
  • Need for own space

Need for bonding

Attachment is about the need for emotional connection within a marriage. Think about the need for love, appreciation, intimacy, support and security. Much of what goes well and not well within a marriage has to do with the degree of meeting this need of attachment.

Need for togetherness

By need for together we mean the need to function together (socially). Partners in a marriage form a ‘functional’ unit in the social, societal, financial and legal fields. The marriage also needs to meet caring tasks, such as caring for children or sick relatives.
The reason was that marriage problems were, after depression and anxiety disorders, one of the most common reasons for treatment within mental health care. By health insurance companies, marriage problems as a primary complaint are no longer reimbursed.
The marriage must also provide for other social functions such as maintaining social contacts, work and income, housing and living needs.  Most couples live together and form a legal unit, are jointly responsible and liable.
It is not uncommon for partners to be more occupied with social tasks than they are with spending time together for a good conversation. Conversations in which things are coordinated, arranged and tasks are divided. If this is not done properly, it creates dysfunction in one or both partners which leads to dissatisfaction within the marriage.
In practice, it is common for partners to have a good functional unity, but the emotional connection has been compromised.

Need for own space

Within the marriage there should also be room for the individual needs. By this we mean, among other things, one’s own development, one’s own identity, one’s own career, one’s own space, one’s own opinion and one’s own social contacts.

Too much compromise and adjustment for the sake of the marriage and satisfaction of the other can later lead to dissatisfaction, disruption and distance in the marriage. When conflicts are not expressed, or when one partner is very dominant and the other is too accommodating, this can also lead to disruption.

Reality

Marriage needs are not merely about attachment and affective needs. Communicating with each other and understanding each other are just as important for making compromises, reaching agreements, caring and organizing.
Disruptions at the attachment level will directly affect the quality of the attachment bond and partners need to repair it whenever possible. Examples include breach of trust, growing apart due to too little time together, or decrease in passion and affection.
Disruptions in the areas of togetherness and personal space will not directly affect the attachment bond, but if left unresolved, they may begin to do so over time. Examples include stress from persistent money problems, work problems, social or psychological problems.
The ongoing problems lead to growing frustration, annoyances, arguments or loss of respect.
As needs are met, the marriage can continue to develop and the bond of love becomes stronger and stronger.
Your Love’s marriage counseling helps you work on yourself and build on your marriage.
The best online marriage counseling in Australia? It’s about Your Love!
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